I have been having an extraordinary time lately – doing a lot of speaking and teaching, some volunteer work, playing racquetball and basketball, enjoying time with family and friends. It has all been so rich and fulfilling. You know my saying that is a choice, right? Experiencing my life as “rich and fulfilling” rather than “crazy busy” is one what that I know that “busy is a mindset.”
For example, on Tuesday this past week, I spoke all day to a group of 50 or so professionals on Dealing with Difficult People, then shot home, grabbed some delicious dinner, hugged my son and spouse before going off to teach a session of Living a Transcendent Life to an amazing group of people. My day ran from 6 AM until 10 PM, I barely had time to eat, but yet, how I chose to experience my day was that is was so rich and full.
What are you saying to yourself today about how busy you are? How do you feel when you chronically say, “I’m so busy?” It drains you. It pulls you down. It feels like a burden. Think about that! You are basically walking around every day saying that your life is a burden.
When I hear this, I simply cringe. I want to see you be lit up about your life, to fill it with the things you love. If you are not having that experience, why not? What happened? How did you get to where you are today? Chances are you did not spend your time in your youth thinking, “Oh I can’t wait to be a grown up so I can walk around feeling burnt out and crazy busy all the time!”
When you feel chronically busy, it means that you have lost sight of populating your days with things that lift you up, things that you value and that you find meaningful. Is your work fulfilling? Are your relationships at work something that you enjoy? Do the activities in your non-working hours align with your values or are you mindlessly “killing time?”
Here are a couple ways you can combat the cultural morass we are swimming in that chronically spoon-feeds us the “busy-means-I-matter” mentality.
Identify your mindset about how busy you are. If busy is a state of mind, you have to stop saying, “I’m so busy!” all the time. The way we speak about our lives very often becomes the experience we are living in our lives! Thoreau once wrote, “You are busy. So what! Even the ants are busy! The question is, ‘what are you busy about?’” Answer that question for yourself. What are you busy about? Are you engaged in things that matter to you? If not, what one thing can take out of your schedule that might free up a little time for self care?
Enhance your skillset regarding how you move through your days tackling your numerous tasks. If you were to make one change to enhance your productivity, it would be this: Plan Your Days! Spend at least a few minutes every day or a half hour once a week actually thinking, “What do I want to accomplish? How do I want to feel? Where will I be taking care of myself, be nurtured and fed this week?” Then put these things in your schedule and HONOR THEM! Your wellbeing and productivity is largely in your hands.